After being in a relationship a year plus i watched the movie he;s just not that into you again...the first time i watched it i was heart broken and didnt really understand what was going on...
tha movie is the best relationship movie i've ever seen...it's not the typical movie we see where every one has a happy ending...there's jerks and divas and husbands and girlfriends and even mistresses...a typical real life situation...
lets take a look at the married couples...there are about 4....out of which 3 we see the husbands would rather watch games and drink beer rather than help around in the house and stuff....typical men gestures....(jerks)
then there's the one marriage that ends in divorce in the end...lets analyse that one abit shall we...
there's a woman who after college gives the guy an ultimatum lets get married or we break up....he goes and gets married to her...and no they don't live happily ever after they actually get divorced...from the start of the movie we see there's no sexual tension between them, hence he gets attracted to the other woman...it's not coz she's giving him anything different...she's just accepting him for who he is...which is what most of us do initially in a relationship..when we first meet some one we're so happy to just be in their company and love them for who they are and then all of a sudden one day.....whhhhaaaaammmmm....we not happy with then coz they don't our hands in public, don't reply to our texts, don't pick up our calls etc etc etc...
sooooo lets go to the holding hands in public...most guys just dont wanna look pussy whipped...u forget they have an imagie to uphold....the MACHO IMAGE.....he's not married to you and well lets just say guys have this tendency to talk...not ur guy..i mean other guys....they'll tease the crap outta him just coz he was seen holding your hand..and guys aren't like gals...they take these things personally....u make fun of him and shit hits the fan....
the reason they don't reply to your texts constantly is coz they're busy at work...it doesn't mean they're not missing you but seriously gal-if you keep texting him how is he gonna get time to miss you??? or how is he gonna get any kind of work done if he's constantly on the phone with u??? think logically and not from the way you think relationships should be please.....
also if you keep calling him every 5 mins how do expect him to know when u need to talk to him or when you just calling to say sup-literally every hour...and i'm a culprit...i would talk to my bf so much during the day-literally saying absolutely nothing that i think it started pissing him off...he has a mother to ask him where he is and what he is doing...don't become his second mother-ur his wife/gf so behave that way.....
you don't havta talk to each other every day....especially if you're dating....i mean in the initial stages yeah it was good fun talking for hours and hour and hours on the phone....that's coz u had so much to learn about each other..you had so much to talk about....now that you know each other why do u still havta talk for hours on end when there's nothing to really talk about...lets be honest-that's what causes fights....so u dont talk for a couple of days-u wont die-infact you'll get closer and have more to talk about....
and so back to the movie again....the wifey has insecurities about her husband dying o lung cancer coz her father who was a smoker died of lung cancer....so her husband does it behind her back....here's another problem we have as women...don't let ur insecurities ruin your presnt and probable future relationship....and this one goes for men too....if a girl cheated on you in the past it doesn't mean that ur new gf will do the same....by constantly nagging the guy/girl to change ur taking them from who they are to who u want them to be....and this causes one person to be uncomfortable and the other to be unhappy.....and this is where the big phrase comes in YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND ME....
oh boy you just made your guy so mad u don't wanna even know....he's the one who's there for you no matter what....through thick and thin..come what may...he would even fight for you....and then you say he doesn't understand you....he feels like crap and whats the first thing he does???? look for another person who makes him feel good about himself again-usually another woman...
so yeah i am blaming the girl for making the guy cheat on her and all the other crap he does to you... if you don't set your boundaries how do u expect him to know them???
and another thing-don't expect a guy to know what u want from him....TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT....they not hormonal emotional fools like us who will keep pestering...if something is bugging you tell him so....coz he ain't gonna ask you again and again....
oh yeah and another point to note-don't ask you girlfriends what they think of your relationship-they'll put crap in your head and cause even more fights.....they're girlssssss for God's sake.....what more do they know then u????
and not every guy is the same so don't classify them that way....each has their own individualism and well we need to get that from them....
Happy Courting ;)
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